Happy Sunday Evening everyone. I thought that I would put this post up slightly later, as I am sure you are all busy decorating your houses for Christmas! What a joyous time of the year it is, and yet what a stressful time too. This weeks verse has come perfectly timed, as I think it speaks some really useful messages as we enter December. It is:
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness” Proverbs 31:27
The big thing that has been niggling at me this week is this concept of “watching over”. We had some great definitions and examples of what this might mean shared on the Facebook Community. These included:
- To protect someone and make certain that that person is safe:
- Making sure everything is sorted for our families so that we don’t have to worry about things
- Nurses on the night shift watch over their patients – they don’t touch or examine them but they watch and check to make sure everything is ok.
- Making sure things don’t go badly, so giving attention but not interference
Its this tension between caring for, looking after, making sure things are safe but also not interfering or taking over. Its the mum “watching over” as her kids learn to cook and cut things with sharp knives. She is there to make sure the environment is safe, the kids are prepper and taught before being let lose and to watch for signs that things might go wrong. But she is allowing the child to step out and learn a new skill and do it themselves. This is a beautiful thing, and yet so difficult. b
I think there is something huge for us to learn from this as mums, and that is that we have to stop interfering!!! We have to let our household take care of itself once in a while, and watch what happens. We as mums are getting more and more stressed, trying to control everything and sort everything, when that is NOT what we are supposed to do!! We are supposed to delegate, we are supposed to train and teach others to take some of the load. Yes, we are there to make sure nothing goes wrong, but we are not hand holding all the time. That is what we should aspire to, and I want to challenge you today to take stock of how you treat your kids and your husband. Are you interfering all the time and taking over, or are you watching over and allowing them to fly?
Bread of idleness
Its funny really that this over controlling is then immediately contrasted with not being idle. As mums, this is a really tricky balance to strike, and I think that the passage is saying we have to get that balance right. Yes, we shouldn’t do everything for everyone and not let anyone else get a look in, but we also shouldn’t sit back with our feet up as everyone else in our household takes the strain. How often do you try to do everything, as let you kids just enjoy themselves, to then burn out and end up slumped on the sofa unable to do anything? I mean, I love a good slump on the sofa, resting and recovering, but there is a difference between resting and being idle.
- REST – cease work or movement in order to relax, sleep, or recover strength
- IDLE – (of a person) avoiding work; lazy.
This is the big difference – rest is for those who HAVE worked, idleness is avoiding doing any work in the first place. If you have been running around after the kids all day and you are exhausted, then it is absolutely fine to have a sit on the sofa, checking your social media with a nice cuppa in hand. That is the rest that you need to face the rest of the day. BUT if you haven’t done a thing, and just can’t be bothered to do the jobs that need to be done in the house so are sitting on the sofa avoiding those jobs, well that is being idle.
So rather that demonising sitting on sofa, watching TV and checking our phones, lets take the time to examine why we are doing that instead.
putting this into practice in the lead up to Christmas
As I said at the beginning, this verse has come for me at an very opportune time. Christmas, especially for those of us with kids in school, can be ridiculously busy. We can feel exhausted and over worked, stressed and not joyful. But this verse says stop trying to do it all! Delegate and let others do some of the Christmas chores – the kids can decorate the tree, the hubby can go to the Carol concert, the grandparents can take them to see Santa. YOU don’t have to do it all. Lets be there to watch over all the festivities, but not feel like we have to do everything.
Also, lets remember to rest. Find times of peace, to meditate on our verses or ponder the Christmas story, or to just scroll through Facebook! But don’t become idle avoid doing the jobs that need doing – they’ll only pile up for the week before Christmas and make you more stressed!!
So channel that Proverbs 31 woman this week and enjoy the start of the festivities!!!
We move on to the following verse to meditate on over the coming week:
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all”” Proverbs 31:28-29
I do hope you will join me and the other members of our Facebook Community in discussing this verse throughout the week. The free phone lock screen will be available tomorrow, but in the meantime check out the 99p sale over in the shop: