arise and call her blessed

In HER Shoes – Proverbs 31 Wife (week 14)

Welcome to another week of Mummy Meditations!

I hope you have been encouraged by the comments and thoughts shared in the Facebook Group. This week we have been meditating on the following verse:

Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all””

Proverbs 31:28-29
DISCLAIMER:

This verse was written about a fictional Queen who would be a match for King Solomon.  I’m pretty sure none of us are queen’s in here, so this verse is not about pressure to “surpass” all other women, but to figure out how we can be the best for our own children and our own husband in whatever situations we find ourselves in.

Setting the scene each morning 

So this summary post might be a bit different to others.  Mainly because the word ARISE has been the one standing out to me this week. I mentioned it in the middle of the week in our Facebook Community, but today is a prime example of how our mornings can affect the rest of the day.  With one little negative comment, I put my husband in a bad mood when he got out of bed.  He went into the boys in a bad mood, and hence they messed around and got punished.  This put them in a bad mood, and the sequence continues.  Does this sound familiar to you?  Do you ever wakeup and dread what the day is going to hold, so you are already in a foul mood when it comes to getting the kids dressed and out the house for school?

arise and call her blessed

Those first few moments in a morning set the tone of the day.  Yes, other things can happen and things can change, but the first few moments are very powerful.  That’s why so many people advocate for getting up early to spend time with God. But if we can’t do that, then this verse has been challenging me on how I speak about those around me first thing.

The kids and husband in this verse get up and immediately call their mum/wife blessed and praise her.  Wow, what that must feel like!!  To have the first words said to you be ones of love, and adoration, rather than “IS IT BREAKFAST TIME!!!”.  But you know what –if that is what we want, then we have to start that.  We have to wake up every day and bless our kids and our husband and speak out praise over them.  We can set the culture in our home and we can set the mood of the day, so lets make it one of praise and love.  If we start doing that, then quickly it will filter into everything else.

So what are the first words out of your mouth on a morning?  Is it “I love you” to your husband?  Is it “hello handsome!” to your boys or “hello beautiful!” to your girls?  The morning holds such promise for the day ahead so lets use it for build up our family, rather than spending it screaming at each other. 

Next Week

Don’t forget to share what God has revealed to you through this verse, as it may be something completely different!  Next week is our penultimate week in this series, so do join me and hundreds of other mummy meditators in pondering on this verse: 

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Proverbs 31:30
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In HER Shoes – Proverbs 31 Wife (Week 9)

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Welcome to another week of Proverbs! We are now over half way through this series (can’t quite believe that!) and I know I have been learning so much.  This week our attention has turned to the husband of this relationship as we pondered over the following verse:

“Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.” Proverbs 31:23

ARE YOU WORTH IT?

We have had eight weeks telling us all about what amazing qualities Solomon’s future wife should have to be the best aide to him as king, and now Bathsheba turns to him.  He is the fictitious husband in this passage and I love the way that Bathsheba is saying to him – make sure you are the husband that matches this wife.  Make sure you are the man who is worthy of this by being respected in your community.  After the mistakes that David made which undermined his role as king (having affairs etc!), Bathsheba is keen that Solomon safeguards his place.  I can imagine the sniggers of other men at the city gate when David would walk by – they knew exactly what he had been up to whilst they were out fighting his battles.  He would have lost their respect despite still holding the position as king.  Bathsheba was probably subject to this sneers and comments about her husband even whilst living inside the palace, so she doesn’t want that for her future daughter in law and son.  She knows the pain that it causes and the shame that it brings upon well-respected people.

pushing each other on

proverbs 31Some lovely ladies in the Facebook Community were researching the significance of the city gate, and all the places mentioned in this verse (do hop over and check out what they found!).  But my mind was drawn to the question – what does this mean for us?  As women who are to be motivated and inspired by this passage in Proverbs, what does this verse about the husband mean for us?  Surely it is just for the man?

But I think it means that we should always be championing, pushing forward and spurring each other on to be the best we can be.  If I want to be an amazing wife then I need an amazing husband by my side, and vice versa.  Have you ever noticed that when one person stops bothering about something, the other one quickly does too?  For us it exercise and eating well.  Once one of us starts snacking and missing exercise classes, then the other is quickly dragged down into that.  Its the same with the effort it takes to be a respectable member of the community.  So if we want a husband who WANTS to be respected at the city gate (whatever that means for us now!) and WANTS to be amongst the elders (perhaps in church or in their business lives) then we need to be modelling that in our lives too.  We need to be respected amongst the other mums at the school gate, we need to be respected as a volunteer and helper at church or as the best in our work places.  When you are both pushing forward and striving for excellence it is sooooo much easier.

but I’m on my own

I know for some of you amazing mums, circumstances mean that you are now parenting solo without a man by your side.  I just want to say this – don’t let this verse discourage you.  Just because you don’t have that husband with you now doesn’t mean you won’t in the future.  Prepare yourself to be the kind of person that will spur him on and will champion him.  Better still, remember that God is there to fill that gap for you, and he definitely is the perfect husband who is respected, so use that as motivation to rise to that level and strive forward in life.

next week

We move on to meditating on the following verse:

“She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes” Proverbs 31:24

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