In HER Shoes – Proverbs 31 Woman (Week 15)

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Welcome to the penultimate summary post of the series!!!  I hope all your Christmas preparations are going well and that you are ready for a well earned rest over Christmas (although when do us mums truly get a proper rest??!).  Just to lighten your load (and my own) we will be taking a two week break over the Christmas period from Mummy Meditations.  This will give you a chance to focus on your kids and your own time with God, reflecting on the past year and looking forward in your own personal way. 

DON’T WORRY THOUGH – I’ll be back to start a new and exciting series on the 6th January which I hope you will all join me in as a New Year’s Habit! There will be new resources, hopefully a new website, and much more! So watch this space….

In the meantime, lets take a look at this week’s verse:

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” 

Proverbs 31:30

Who is this verse for?

The biggest thing I wanted to remember whilst meditating on this verse was that it was never written for us.  It was written by Bathsheba as advice to her son Solomon.  And so when we take this heart and say “well I can’t be nice and charming to others, and I can’t try to be beautiful” we are taking this verse out of context.  

Men are, have been and will always be attracted to beauty and the way women look.  Its just the way that they were made.  We saw this in previous women that we looked at, such as Rachel and Leah who were sisters, but Rachel was the more attractive one and that is why Jacob fell in love with her.  .  But just because this is the natural way that things happen doesn’t mean that it is the way it should be.  We all sin, but that is not the way that God wants it to be.   Bathsheba is trying to get her son to break the mold and see past the physical.  As a king this would have been very important, as there would have been lots of pretty ladies, each with their own agenda, trying to woo him and become queen.  Bathsheba is trying to protect her son from future pain that choosing a wife just based on looks could have.  

What kind of wife is best then?

So Bathsheba isn’t saying that beauty and charm are bad, just that they can be misused.  So what kind of wife does she suggest is better than that?  One who shares the same CORE VALUES as him, one who FEARS THE LORD.  Yes, Bathsheba knows that the most important thing for the future king of Israel is that they will stay close to God, as she has seen first hand the harm that can happen when they stray.  The easiest way for him to do that is to have a wife by his side who is also following the God of Israel, as she will support him, pray for him, bring him back to God when he wanders and help him make good decisions for the nation.  Those of you parenting on your own or with a non-Christian husband – how hard is it to make those tough decision without support or with conflicting beliefs influencing you both.  Wouldn’t you love for it to be easier and simpler or to just have someone there to bounce ideas off?  That is what Bathsheba wants for her son.

How does this apply to me then?

So all of this has really been directed at Solomon.  How can we, as modern day women, apply the lessons from this verse to our own lives?  I think the obvious application would be to not put as much value on our appearance and outward attractiveness, but to concentrate on our relationship with God instead.  Yes there is some truth in that – we should always prioritise getting to know God over other worldly things.  But I think the heart of this verse is about being a great partner to our husbands, as that is what Bathsheba wanted for her son.  How can we, as the wives that have been chosen, spur our husbands on to do great things in their work, family and other aspects of their lives.  How can we keep them close to God, or bring them closer if they don’t know Him yet?  That is the thing that is worthy of praise, that is the mark of an amazing wife. 

Next week

I would love to hear your thoughts on this verse, so don’t forget to share them over in the Facebook Group. Next week we move on to the final verse in Proverbs 31:


Honour her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Proverbs 31:31

I hope you will join me as we meditate on this verse together.

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