As mums, I am sure we are all aware of how difficult it can be to find time and space to spend alone with our Father God, getting stuck in His word and sitting in conversation with Him. Recently I have been feeling really guilty about this (again!!) and I am trying to stick to a reading plan on my bible app that I can read on my phone during nighttime feedings with my baby boy. Two verses jumped out at me the other day, and got me thinking about why we shouldn’t feel guilty about this:
“Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. ” 1 cor 7:17
” An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the affairs of the Lord: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world – how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”
You see, Paul warned us it would be like this!! If you want to have the closest relationship with God, to spend hours pondering His word, to take long walks across cliff tops and take in the awe and wonder of our creator (and post pictures of your view and journal entries on instagram – you know the people I am talking about!) then you are best off staying single and avoiding family life. I’m not saying that you can’t have glimpses of these things when you’re married, or that your relationship with God isn’t good, but the mere fact of having a husband and family is at times going to distract you and take you away from that perfect relationship.
Family life is messy and demanding. Kids won’t wait for their dinner, babies won’t be patient for nap time or a clean nappy whilst you finish your quiet time. Practically it just isn’t compatible all the time. And if you choose marriage and kids then you have to make your peace with that and stop comparing yourself to your single counterparts – Paul warned us it would be like this!
But he also said that we can and should live as believers in whatever situation we find ourselves in. This means that family life and dealing with all that laundry isn’t a waste – God has called you to that place and has a purpose for you in it. And when we start to make our peace with that too, we can really make some headway in our own personal mission. So let us stop feeling guilty, accept that we will sometimes be distracted from God (but not use our families as an excuse) and get stuck in with whatever situation God has put us in.